Sunday, May 11, 2008

Musings of a Canuck in Cancun

My therapist asked me this week what it would take for me to be happy, now and in the future. Here, in random order, are some of the things that came out of that session.

1. Hot weather, the beach and the ocean. This may sound shallow, but it's really not, living in Canada I suffered (sometimes mildly, sometimes debilitatingly) from S.A.D., every winter was a nightmare of depression. I NEED sunshine and warm salty waters. The ocean is a goddess of purification, renewal and forgiveness, when I submerge myself in her all the bad stuff just floats away. This is a necessity for my happiness without a doubt, the thought of moving someplace inland just makes me shrivel up on the inside.

2. A roof over my head and food. I don't need to be rich, I don't need fancy things, material goods just aren't my style, but yes, I think I would have to have food and shelter to be happy.

3. Cats. Lots and lots of cats. Kitties fall into the same category as the ocean for me, a life affirming bundle of furry goodness can help lift my spirits on even the worst of days.

4. A job that allows me to help people. Not help them find the vacation of their dreams or a condo or the best powder for their athlete's foot, but helping them be the best they can be. I do love teaching and feel that I am contributing something positive to my students' lives, but my real dream would be to go back to school and become a psychologist. I think if I had to go back to working in an office or in retail I might just lose my mind.

5. Affection. I'm desperate for it. Not just hugs and kisses, but words of love and caring and kindness. Perhaps I am hungrier for it than a lot of people, it seems to come up a lot in my therapy sessions just how much I really need.

6. Sex and intimacy. I know, this is a family friendly blog but heck, it's reality, we all need it, we all want it and we all have to have it.

7. A healthy, happy and thriving son. Max is the best thing in my life, but also the most challenging. I can't wait to see the man he turns into (ok, I CAN wait, his little life is moving too fast already but I am excited about his future).

8. A partner who shows me respect, love, affection, caring and treats me like an equal (when I am not being treated like a queen).

9. Humour. Me likey the funny. For years I worked in the comedy industry in Toronto and I miss it (and the comedians) greatly. Mexican humour just doesn't hit home for me, I've tried but I just don't find the stand up or the sketch very funny. Sometimes I think of my classroom like a stand up stage, I've got some great zingers about grammar. Bah dum ching!

10. Art. Hard to find here in Cancun, but I feel so vibrant when I am in a theater or art gallery or performance space. This could be the number one thing I miss about living in Toronto, I could always count on being able to find some cool "happening" any time I wanted, day or night.

11. Cheese.


Jennifer said...

I hope you get everything on your list on a daily basis. You so deserve it!! Maybe you can have your english classes ON the beach, that way you can kill two birds with one stone.

I so love the last one - cheese. We all need some cheese, LOL.


Anonymous said...

Cheese and cats! Love that. The rest is all good too. I hope you get everything you need to be happy.

Theresa in Mèrida said...

I like your list, except for the beach part, the beach is just okay for me. Mexican humour is not subtle or maybe it's too subtle for me? Cheese good, Theresa like cheese too.

Scott Bulger Photography said...

I can help you with #10!

CancunCanuck said...

Jennifer- English classes on the beach? Are you reading my secret fantasies again? ;-)

Rivergirl- Thanks amiga. Who doesn't love cheese and cats?

Theresa- I know the beach isn't for everyone, some folks just don't like sand in their pants, haha. Mexican humour is NOT subtle in many ways, and yes, too subtle in others. The "albur" is often difficult to understand, it's more than just a language barrier. Cheese very very good.

Scott- Come on down, let's have a happening! I'm glad to have artists like yourself in my internet world, there is just something lovely about being in a gallery and experiencing the whole production or installation, KWIM?

I realized after I posted that I totally forgot to add "books" to my list. I think I might die without something to read!

JoAnne in CT said...

Kelly, are you a middle child perhaps? Your list practically mirrors what's important to me! I guess great minds think alike!

Heather said...

Girl, we really arent that much different from each other. I add take out art and put soccer and that would be my list too, lol! well not exactly but yo uknow what I mean. Sun, kids, animals, sex and soccer. Covers it for me, lol! Thanks for sharing!

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