Friday, September 12, 2008

Wedding Bells!

I am so very excited and pleased today! My brother called last night to tell me that he and his partner of many years are going to officially tie the knot on October 25th. K and J are the perfect match, in that opposites attract kind of way and I couldn't be happier for them. I sooo wish I could be there with them, but there is about 1% chance of being able to come up with air fare for the trip to Los Angeles (little bro is an ex-pat too, he moved to the States way back in 1990). I adore my brother in law J, we have lots of laughs together and he is already a part of the family, though October 25th will make it all "official".

I'm thrilled for them, but saddened that they have to put a rush on the wedding because of the possibility of California repealing the gay marriage law on November 3rd. Why on earth would they do that? K and J love each other, have made a home together and certainly have a more stable relationship than many married "breeders" I know, why would anyone think that they should not have the right to marry? I just don't get why anyone would be against the union of two souls in love!

Felicidades brothers, I wish you a long and happy life together, wish I could be there to raise a glass with you and toast to your future! (You made me cry dammit, I got off the phone and had tears of happiness running down my face. I guess there are worse things to cry about though, so you are off the hook for ruining my mascara.) I love you both.


K.W. Michigan said...

Congrats to your brother and his partner!!

Theresa in Mèrida said...

That is so great! Sometimes there are good airfare specials to LAX via Aviasca (or however you spell it).

Susan Lechuga said...

Congrats to your brother. Love is love no matter the origin. I hope they have many many years together and they have a lifetime of happiness.

Heather said...

Whew Hoo, Congrats! My 2 girlfriends got married in Hawaii last yr but then did it in san fran this yr. I do think it is sad they would change the law after it was already voted but thats the government for you, lol!

3LittleFlowers said...

Congrats to them!!

I had no idea about them changing the law, and I bet they will be LOTS of gay wedding this October!

Islagringo said...

What great news! I never thought I would see legal gay marriages in my lifetime. As you know, it's been legal in Canada for quite some time. Leave it to the Canucks to lead the way!

It's really interesting to see the comments you are getting on this issue also.

p.s. "breeders" is about the most derogatory term you can use for straight people. It's not a very nice thing to say. It's right up there with the N word in my book.

Islaholic Trixie said...

Congrats to your brother and brother-in-law. I wish them a lifetime of happiness together!!

Kathy said...

Felicidades! I was so proud to have been able to participate in the first legal marriages in CA (that prompted the whole shebang) and even though the kids were so nonplussed (what's the big deal about folks getting married???) about it, I hope they appreciate it a little down the road.

I'm going to have to make a point to talk to the boys today and see what they think now...

Here's a link

(you'll have to forgive me, I can't BELIEVE how tiny my kids used to be...)

Kathy said...

And I totally forgot the reason I checked in with you - how has your weather been? We've been very windy and overcast for 3-4 days - today is clear for the first time.

Manolo said...

Hi there, I've been a bit disconnected for a while, between new part time job and full time gf ;-) Congratulations to your brother, to you and to your family. They could've try to come to Toronto to get married, and then you will come visit... anyway, enhorabuena para los novios!

PS Stay safe from all those hurricanes, ok?

Anonymous said...

Congrats to the bro and his partner!
Portland is a pretty liberal city. Multnomah County began issuing same sex marriage license in 2004. This turned in to a huge political battle which ended later that year with an amendment to the Oregon Constitution. The next year the legislature introduced a bill to create civil unions but it eventually died and did not become law. Today Oregon does not recognize same sex marriages.
May 2008 the Oregon Court of Appeals upheld a 2004 ballot measure that limited marriage to heterosexual couples. So legally I am not sure what that means to all of the couples who had legally licensed and performed marriage ceremonies.

Fned said...

I like to think (hope?) that American has changed a great deal in the past years and that people have slowly come to realize that EVERYONE has a right to be happy and make it legal. Period. Live and let live, folks!!!

Congratulations to K and J!!


Frankly Ronda said...

Mucho happiness to your brother and his fiancé!

Anonymous said...

If there wasn't any "breeders" you wouldn't be here sweet hart. But don't worry keep on doing what your doing...the world is on a down ward spiral.

Mrrphh said...

Yo les doy la enhorabuena a los novios. ¡Que bonito!

I'll take credit for it: September 12th is my birthday and I have always, since kidhood, had the secret wish that every "Happy" addressed to me on that day would go forth into the world. So now the day that your happy brother called you with the wonderful news will be forever attached to my birthday and all of the happies that I get next year will happen to them.

A wonderful blog, too. A usted también le felicito por su blog bonito. Estoy muy agradecido por haber escrito.

Anonymous said...

"If there wasn't any "breeders" you wouldn't be here sweet hart. But don't worry keep on doing what your doing...the world is on a down ward spiral."

I would like to point out several things about the post that I quoted above.
1. The third word should be 'weren't' instead of wasn't as the subjunctive is called for.
2. A 'hart' is a male deer...I believe the poster meant to write the word 'sweetheart' which is a compound word and is not written 'sweet heart' and is a common expression used by males who are inclined to put women down.
3. There should be a comma after the word 'worry'
4. The poster used the word 'your' when the correct word to use would have been 'you're' as it is the contraction used when the meaning is 'you are'
5. The word downward is also a compound word and not written as two words.

Unsigned postings by semiliterate persons attempting to put down others are laughable. I hope CancunCanuck will leave that post as evidence that it takes a person who lacks education to be a bigot. The 'downward spiral' is directly attributable to small minded people like them. Unfortunately, way too many of the illiterate and ignorant are the breeders.

Kathe K.

Islagringo said...

I truly wish that I had not added that little comment about "breeders" to this post. It appears to be taking away some of the focus of what this post is really about...the joy and happiness of two people very close to Canuck. We should join Canuck in her happiness and celebrate this wonderful news with her. If I distracted from this, I am truly sorry and offer my apologies to all.

Anonymous said...

To answer your question why do people think this union is wrong :
Leviticus 20:13

Beth said...

Felicidades to the happy couple!!! Love is love is love, no matter what anyone says!

CancunCanuck said...

KW- Thanks!

Theresa- I think it's great too. And I found a great deal on Travelocity, I actually get to go to L.A.!!!

My3Ros- Thanks amiga, they've had many wonderful years together already, I know they are set for life.

Heather- Thanks and congrats to your friends. I don't know why they would change the law again, but as you say, that seems to be the government's way!

Momto3- They MAY change the law, it goes to vote the first week of November. Cross your fingers that it doesn't revert!

IslaGringo- Yes, Canada is very much leading the way in this regard, yahoo! With regards to the "b" word, I did use it in a contemptuous way for those hetero couples who seem to think that their way is the only way. I'd been reading too much Republican rhetoric and had my panties in a twist, probably should have changed my wording a bit but the thought of the law being reversed really got me angry. It's THOSE straights that deserve the "b" word!

Trixie- Thanks!

Kathy- That's great that you got to be a part of history and kudos to you for raising kids with open minds! Thanks for the links, checking them out now! Oh, and the weather has been off and on, windy and cloudy with some showers but seems to be clearing up now.

Manolo- Hooolaaa amigo, glad to see you here. They talked about going to Toronto for a wedding, but they really don't have any connections there anymore, all their friends and their life is in L.A., it's much better they can do it there surrounded by people who love them. (And yep, staying safe from hurricanes is a priority for the next month or so!)

Jackie- Thanks! It's interesting to see how the individual states are handling the laws, I can't believe that they would limit love to "straight" people.

Fned- I'm with you, live and let live! Thanks for the congrats!

American Mommy- Thanks!

Anon- The world may be on a downward spiral, but not because of love, only because of hate and intolerance.

Seattle Sue- Gracias y bienvenido! A late happy birthday to you as well, reading your comment made me smile, thank you.

Kathe- THANKS. You said it so I don't have to, lol. (And yes, I owe you an email, coming today I promise!)

IslaGringo- I appreciated your comment, I realize that I may have gone a little harsh, but I agree, let's focus on this wonderful moment.

Anon- The Bible says a whole lot of things that don't have any place in modern society and that can be twisted and interpreted anyway you like. I like this quote “The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals. It's just that they need more supervision.”

Beth- Thanks! I always say it's hard enough to find love in this world, why limit yourself to only 50% of the population? :)

Susan Lechuga said...

Sorry to come back and comment again. I wish my father could have had this right like your brother. He was forced to pretend to be a "breeder" hence my sister and I and he was miserable. He met his partner and was with him till he died and truly happy. He was never legally married to his mate but i am glad others now have this freedom

Anonymous said...

Kathe K.,

I just thought that you might REALLY want to understand the meaning. And please don't insult my intelligence over a blog comment.

breed·er (brdr)
1. A person who breeds animals or plants.

2. An animal kept to produce offspring.

3. Offensive Slang A heterosexual person.

4. A source or cause: social injusticea breeder of revolutions.

5. A breeder reactor.

BBmama said...

Aww, I'm sorry you won't be able to make this day. I know you were so excited about it and I was excited just to have you in the same state as me....

May your brother have a lifetime of love, happiness and many blessings.

ETA: ooh and I'm sorry for some of these's sadly, what gives we Christians a bad name. We're not all like that! ;-)

Heather said...

wait your going to LA? I will be in San Diego most likely around that time.... want to meet up?

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